Last week I introduced the concept of Getting Ready to Get Ready (GRTGR) and outlined a little introspection process to help us move from GRTGR into action. I also called myself out on two of my favorite GRTGR activities:
Learning – I want to start a blog, but I’m scared so I shop for a book on blogging instead. I want to write, but I’m scared so I sign up for another writing class instead.
Planning – I want to start a business so I buy a business planner, read the intro and never follow through on yearly, quarterly, monthly, weekly, daily plans that I crafted so very lovingly. But, I decorate the hell out of that planner! It’s freakin’ gorgeous.
Did you think about your favorite GRTGR activities? How can you tell when you’ve slipped from actually Getting Ready (valuable learning and planning) into GRTGR (avoidant learning and planning)? This is all about knowing ourselves, calling ourselves out on our avoidance tactics, and coaching our way through GRTGR into action.
I also talked about the main reason we turn to GRTGR: because we are standing on the edge of our comfort zone and we want to step over the line because we’ve seen a vision off something really cool and enticing out there, but to get to that enticing nifty thing we have to venture into the dark forest that exists just beyond the border of comfiness. And the dark forest is, well, dark. And dark = scary. And we’re not sure we can navigate through it or that we’ll survive the journey because…monsters! And battling monsters is for heroes and rock stars. Not us. Not me. Nope. No sir. Thank you very much. I’m just not ready for that. I don’t have a flashlight. I don’t have batteries for the flashlight I don’t have. And I need to buy lots of flashlights and batteries and try out all the different combinations of flashlight to battery effectiveness. And, now I can’t remember why I started collecting all these flashlights and batteries in the first place, And, oh yeah, shiny nifty thing over there. But…darkness and monsters!
If that sounds like every story, fairy tale, thriller, horror story, adventure, or romance ever written – it’s because it is EXACTLY the same as all those stories. The only difference is, in those stories, there’s a heroine who for whatever reason has been forced or chosen to venture into the dark forest.
I LOVE reading these stories. Because I get to go on an adventure AND stay all cozy and comfy on my sofa at the same time. It’s a win win!
Except when it isn’t.
I think I need more coffee – brb.
Here’s the deal, in those stories, the heroine who kicks monster butt is scared too. She’s not sure she can make it to the other side of the forest either. (In the stories I love to read, they don’t even have flashlights they have torches or a jar full of talking fireflies.) And yet, she ventures forth and she grows, she learns, she finds the magic within – on her way through the forest.
The difference between me (when I’m in GRTGR mode) and the heroine, is that she doesn’t wait for the strength, knowledge, or the magic to show up before she begins. She steps into the unknown and figures the rest out on the way. And that’s what makes the story fun!
Let’s look at the elements of the story and write our own so we can be the heroines of our own adventure:
Call to Action
What is calling your forward?
What prize do you want to win?
What magic are you seeking?
How do you imagine finding ____________ (prize, magic, love) will change your life?
The Dark Between Here and There
What are you afraid of?
What beliefs do you have about the things that live in the dark?
What beliefs do you have about yourself that keep you fearful?
What do you need to believe to take the next step?
Trials, Challenge, and Conflict
What do you need to learn?
What will it take to get you to believe in yourself?
What strengths do you have that will help you through?
Who are the guides and teachers in your life, who will lend you their strength and wisdom until it becomes your own?
What are you willing to let go of?
What are you willing to do that you’ve never done before?
The Boss Battle
How will you know when you’ve won?
The Elixir, the Prize, the Love
Imagine your happy ending.
What’s the same?
What have you lost?
What have you won?
Happy ending! – every ending is a new beginning so …
What’s your next adventure?
I hope you have fun with this. I’m putting together some worksheets with these questions and the questions from last week so you can play with them some more. I love worksheets!